Today I am turning 20 years old. 20 years being alive, or if you want your existential crisis to kick in, 7300 days being alive, waking up everyday and going to bed at the night. Yeah I know, it’s not that long but it’s long enough for me to take a step back and try to write down the most important lessons I have learned through my life so far.
In case you don’t have a clue about me, how the hell did you ended up here ? You can read my short bio here to get an idea.
1) You need to travel more, further, with friends and alone.
Travelling is like a medicine. It cures everything. There isn’t most exciting experience than going somewhere you haven’t been in. The previous summer, I found my self wondering around Malta with a dozens of teens from all around Europe and sleeping in Rome’s airport with people I have only met twice. If you are interested in these experiences, tweet me and I may write about them.
2) Most people want to please others.
Chances are that you are a people pleaser. Meaning that you go to social media and you upload content, so you can get validation from others, that what you like is cool and in. Isn’t not a bad thing, just be aware of it and don’t deny it.
3) Everyone is wise.
This took me a lot of time, to learn it. I used to talk with people and think to my self that I am spending my time talking to idiots that know nothing. Eventually I came to the conclusion that everyone I will ever meet, knows something that I don’t. The trick is to be smart enough to guide the conversation so you can get that golden nugget of knowledge out of them.
4) Pay attention to your dreams.
But our dreams aren’t ridiculous. In fact, they aren’t really “dreams” at all. They are who we are — the most fundamental expression of ourselves as individuals, before the negotiations and the bullshit and the doubt pile up on us.
5) Friends are the family you choose.
I can’t emphasize enough how important, friendship is in your life. In my 20 years of living, I have met a bunch of people, but just a few of them, I can really call them Friends. I understood that it is not the quantity that matters but really the quality. Especially the last year I have met some amazing people that I hope to be friends forever with. I am super happy and very grateful that I can call these people my friends.
Friends are there to catch you when you fall and to support you when no else does. Partners come and go but friends stay forever, expect when you find the “ONE”.
To all my friends: I love you guys ! I hope we do some dope shits in the following decade.
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley
Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s success.
– Oscar Wilde
6) Pay attention to your body.
Top of Form
“Always the stairs. Never the escalator.”
Bottom of Form
Your body has to be your number one priority. Sleep 30 minutes less each night and get 30 minutes of exercise. Your summer self will thank you for this decision.
OK, I know it’s easier said than done, but everything is a habit and a state of mind. You just have to dedicate your self.
7) Your comfort zone is your enemy.
I know, it’s a saying that is being over talked, but really I can’t emphasize this enough. Probably one of the most valuable things I have learned. Your comfort zone is your enemy ! Do things that you are afraid of.
Once I stared doing things outside of my comfort zone, amazing things happened, but I have to warn you. When you are “several layers deep”, “outside of your comfort zone”, you will start questioning your self whether what you are doing is actually good for you or it’s harming you. Don’t loose faith, believe in your self.
8) Your ability to take risks is what sets you apart from the rest.
The most dangerous thing you can do in life is play it safe.
As a guiding principle, life shrinks and life expands in direct proportion to your willingness to assume risk.
9) I love learning I hate studying.
I love Knowledge, everyone does, but not everybody thrive in controlled environments like school and university. I was fortunate enough to discover very early on, in my college life, amazing sites like edx.com and MIT’s Open lessons.
I don’t really need a teacher telling me what to learn. Everyone can learn anything ! The resources are there, the only problem is whether you are able to take full ownership of your knowledge and of course how bad you really want it.
Without joking, there are hundreds of cases, with people that an online course was what got them hired. You just have to accept that the excuse we used to tell some years ago, about being less fortunate due to the situation of our Universities is just not valid anymore.
*Of course the previous, can’t be applied to every subject of study. The point that I am trying to make is that the Knowledge barriers have been minimized significantly the last two decades.
10) Free time is the enemy of progress.
I know I may sound crazy, but I HATE free time. I like free time because I can relax but in the same time I hate it because it means I am not being productive. I need just enough free time so I have something to relax with, but not too much to spent a weekend watching 3 Seasons of a series non stop. And don’t tell me you haven’t been there because you will be lying.
11) The right time is always right now.
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. the second best time is now.”
– Chinese Proverb
12) Without a goal, you can’t score.
Set goals and measure your progress. Don’t just do things for the sake of doing them.
Being busy can be tempting. It makes you believe that you are important. Don’t fall for this illusion. Constantly ask your self: Is what I am doing right now helping me reach my goals ?. If not change it.
13) Smile and hug more.
Your emotional state can change in an instance. Smile more often and you will be happier. Find joy in every moment you are experiencing. Also, hug more ! Hug your loved ones, hug your friends and even hug strangers. OK that’s just weird or is it ?
“You know those days when you catch yourself walking around smiling and you stop and wonder why am I smiling today? those days are the best days.”
14) Hustle !
15) Don’t ask permission ask forgiveness
Just do it.
Take initiatives and then be brave enough to deal with the consciousnesses. This is the only way you will learn. Great leaders are not waiting for others to tell them what to do and what not.
16) Don’t give a F***K what people think.
There is a difference between giving a fuck about what everyone has to say about you and taking into consideration feedback your loved one gives you. There is a BIG difference in constantly looking for validation from others, always checking whether what you are doing is acceptable by the majority and doing your thing.
Just do your thing without looking for approvals.
Whatever you do, there will always going to be people that won’t approve it. The real question is how much do you really care about what others think of you, and how much are you letting these opinions dictate your decisions and basically your life.
17) Unplug once in a while.
Turn off your phone for an afternoon and go for a walk. We are constantly online, receiving all these mostly meaningless notifications, and we have the illusion that if we miss one the world will end.
Guess what ? It won’t, so try to unplug your self once a week and enjoy the nature.
18) Don’t be fat and lazy.
I will just let the video do the explanation.
19) In your lowest moments you discover your self.
Not everyday is going to be a good day. There are days that you don’t want to get out of bed and face your problems. There are days that all you want to do is cry and just disappear for while.
In those days, you will find your self, because these moments makes you rethink a lot of things, situations and relationships you take for granted or you want to change. Take advantage of these days. A good practice is to keep a journal.
20) LOVE LOVE LOVE
Love the world, Love your family, Love your friends but before all, Love your self.
PS: Don’t forget to love your pet ! It needs love too.
If you want to give me some love too, you can do it by sharing this post with the #20for20 or wishing me Happy Birthday 🙂
Cheers to another great 20 years !!!